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Broken hearts and Rice-a-Roni

14 Nov

What is a ‘roni’ anyways?? If I was asking Bobby Brown back in the 90’s I’m pretty sure he would say “she’s a sweet ol’ girl, about the sweetest little girl in the whole wide world” But this is not about Bobby Brown’s tenderoni but rather Rice-a-Roni the San Francisco treat!

What I found was that rice-a-roni which was introduced back in 1958 had an original recipe of dry chicken soup mix with rice and macaroni…hence “roni.”  Mystery solved!  However, today the macaroni has been replaced with vermicelli pasta and apparently Rice-a-vermicelli did not flow as good.  Who knew? <Insert shrugged shoulders>

Now I am sure you are asking yourself what does broken hearts and rice-a-roni have in common?? Well nothing really but lots of carbs always helps a broken heart feel better.  Am I right??  As some of us get older (not me of course but I have heard) our hearts seem to get more bruised and creates a protective barrier and in my head I picture a red glossy shell almost like a hard candy shell (Yum).  This is a natural instinctive protective way our hearts protect us from a potential sting of loss, rejection or just expectations we had about a person/situation.

Well I am here to tell you or rather spell out for you broken hearts are AWESOME although we don’t always feel that way as we are picking up the jigsaw pieces of my heart.  It has taken me a long time to understand that you can’t break something if you never pick it up.  I have had my heart broken many times from first loves (yes there were many) to divorce to saying goodbye to friendships that have run their course or even when my expectations did not live up.  There have been easy heartbreaks that didn’t seem to faze me but what I realized is that I didn’t really love.  Now don’t get me wrong I don’t enjoy having my heart broken but it does remind me that I am still alive and EVEN have the ability to be vulnerable and open.   I have consciously taken on being more courageous and open to a broken heart rather than trying to protect a closed heart.  This path also requires me to be more open and communicate what I am feeling and what I am feeling right now is…. Hungry…. What I would love is some Rice-a Roni….. please excuse me…

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Soul Mates: To be or not to be

29 Aug

In Aristophanes’s speech from Plato’s Symposium we are given a greek mythology explanation of soul mates.  While it is very interesting and makes me feel smart to read it all I will not put you through what I went though so I will paraphrase for you.  Basically two ‘beings’ would come together to form another ‘being’ and when Zeus was all stressing out that this super happy double life ‘being’ might be stronger than the Gods, ‘it’ had to be destroyed.  His plan, to cut this ‘being’ up!  Oh and I’m not talking about the music ‘cut it up’ I’m talking going Samurai sword on them and dismembering their bodies into what the human body appears to us today.  By the way I think this is a very logical explanation of why our bodies are shaped the way they are.  Any how his reasoning was that two beings (the earth kind) would constantly be in search of their other half and when they found them they would finally be complete.  The End.

While that is a very interesting take of the creation of humans and the definition of soul mates I think we can all agree that a more common definition is that there is a deep shared feeling or connection with another person.  Of course these connections can be on many different levels such as compatibility, spirituality, love, sexuality, or intimacy.  Now I could spend a lot of time on each of these topics well some more than others but hey this is a family blog!  I recently found myself lost in the world without my other half, again not for this blog topic and wondered if there was even such a thing as a soul mate.  Is this something we want to believe in so bad so we don’t feel alone in the world?  Obviously not since the those crazy Greeks were talking soul mates before most of us were here.  Yes I said most, you know who you are.

I did my own soul searching because doesn’t it make sense that we know our own soul before we can find that other half of ourself out there?   Well during my searching I found something.  I found that I have many deep connections with people and things.  Yes I sad things.  I love riding my bike and when I’m out there on my bike I feel it my soul.  I know I sound like a five-year old but have you ever seen a five-year old on their bike?  They are unbelievably happy and I know exactly what that feels like.  My bike is my soul-mate.  Do you have a favorite band or music?  When I turn on the Beastie Boys I feel they GET me.  They are all over the place but still saying something you just have to listen closely to get the message, this something I completely relate to.  The Beastie Boys are a soul mates.

During this journey of realizing the things that make my soul sing and bring me happiness I also discovered that it is possible to give birth to your soul mate or in my case mates.  Don’t worry it’s not as gross as it sounds I am referring to my own two amazing boys who make me insane and insanely happy.  One day when I was sitting there wondering how I got to this place and by this place I am referring to the McDonald’s playground in the craziest town (I will not tell you the name of that town for the sake of my safety).  I looked at them and it hit me with those toothless smiles and realized I am who I am because of them and I want to be better for them.   That’s when it hit me, THEY were my soul mates and no matter what else happens in my life or other crazy place I end up with them (Legoland for my birthday) I’m with the only two people who matter in my crazy life.  I even know the exact times I fell in love with them but I will save that for another blog.

So next time someone asks me if I believe in soul mates I know that answer because for so long I didn’t know what to say.  The answer is I do and coffee is my soul mate! It gets me and tastes delicious!

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